How to Break Up with Your Boyfriend
Breaking up is a really tricky affair. You may feel liberated after you do that and side by side, it may also feel painful. Think thrice and know the best way to break up with your boyfriend. [ Read: 22 Things To Never Do After A Breakup ]
You need to first ask yourself two very important questions before taking the big decision. Can your guy change what is getting on your nerves and the reason why you’re breaking up with him? The other one being, are you sure you want to break up with your guy?
These two questions should be answered in order to bring you down to the appropriate decision.
Generally, in every case, the first break up is never the final one. Either the guy or the girl approaches the other one and gets back together in no time. But, after a few days, they start to face all the trouble again. The problem is that of holding yourself. Both people miss each other and cannot resist talking to each other. [ Read: 11 Questions you Need to ask Yourself after a Break Up ]
If you have finally come down to the decision of breaking up, then here’s the way for you to end your relationship in a painless way. It is a sure-shot way of breaking up and fining the new liberated ‘you’.
Use these steps to find a new ray of life and to never look back at your past.
- Don’t rush things!
Never think of a break-up in an instant. It involves a lot of thinking, which is necessary. You need to think how he perceives you and how much he wants you to stay. If you both are going through a bad phase, then face him and tell him you are unhappy in the relationship. Both of you are in love and it would be unfair to give him a shock about the news of breaking up. Let him know you are not satisfied and see if he changes himself to make you happy or not. [ Read: 11 Things a Break-up can Teach You about Life ]
- Give him a second chance by giving a few more days to your relationship!
There is no harm in giving him a second chance if you both are knee deep in love. If a couple of days pass by, and you see no change in any of his activities in getting you annoyed, then it’s time for you to be more sure about your decision. This is the time when your mind won’t be able to rule over your heart. This is the time when you should be very discreet about your next step, that is, whether to stay back or leave him. To avoid all the useless arguments, tell him you need a break from him to concentrate on how to settle your life. Tell him to give you a few weeks of time alone. A trial break up is something which is very mean but it is the only way to try to see if you can really live without him or not. If you’re driving for the first time, then it is better to be slow at first and then race against others when you are a pro at it. Right?
- Think again!
You need to think a thousand times before making such a decision. Finding that perfect guy is not at all easy. If you have actually found one and were able to work through all the chaos in the past, then don’t be afraid of the chaos happening in the future. If you were able to solve the chaos back then, then you would be able to solve everything the same way now too. [ Read: 15 Biggest Dating Deal Breakers for Women! ]
- Prepare a list!
Only you are the one who knows how the good or bad times were in your relationship. Prepare a list of all the pros and cons of your relationship and then weigh them. Are you still sure you want to leave him?
- Be clear headed!
Don’t be fickle minded and don’t take any decision at a spur of the moment. Many girls first take a decision to walk away, but then they regret the decision even if the guy is happy walking away. If you think you would be happier if you were single, then go ahead with it. [ Read: 15 Quotes about Love and Heartbreak ]
- End it face to face!
Don’t be a coward who would end a relationship over the phone or by dropping a text. Be bold and face him when you think it is the end. You both were equally in love and you should respect the love from both the sides. This is why you should end it face to face. Confronting him about your newly found feelings is not at all easy. But, it has to be done. He may try to make you stay in the relationship but you need to stick to your thing for a better future.
- Don’t stay in contact with him!
This will definitely be painful but it will be okay in the end. End all sort of contact with him and never face him again, at least for a while. You should do it if you don’t want to feel worse by bumping into him all over again. [ Read: 10 Relationship Deal Breakers To Watch Out For! ]
- Move on!
You will hear this phrase ‘move on’ from everybody around you, but it’s only you who should actually know how to practice it. Get over your relationship by involving yourself in other things which are important. This may sound mean. But, hey! The first one to move on after a relationship is the happier one. Be that person!
This is the perfect guide designed to break up with your guy in a painless manner. Follow these guidelines to have a more peaceful life.